A couple of years ago, during the last hour of an event, the Bride’s dad came over to make a few requests (he really wanted some southern rock). A man of honesty and integrity, he prefaced his requests by admitting he was drunk, which was obvious. But he was a friendly sort of drunk, so we took the time to listen to him try to stammer out the mashed-up titles of the songs he wanted to hear, by groups he couldn’t think of at the moment.
As we patiently waited, one of the bridesmaids came over and rudely interrupted the FOB demanding “The bride want to hear…..” To which the Bride’s dad exploded… without filters or reservations… “The bride is my daughter! She doesn’t want to hear that sh*t!”
BUSTED. Sheepishly the bridesmaid retreated, at which point we would have happily played nothing but southern rock the rest of the night, to honor this man who got to say something we’ve all wanted to say at one time or other.
But the fact is, we deal with the general public, and the general public is often clueless as to thought processes that go into building a brilliant, floor-filling mix. That said, I’ll turn things over to Brian S. Redd who recently posted his thoughts on the request dilema: “The Bride Wants To Hear…”
Lee Mills, Yakima, Washington commented “I handle with a basic do not play list. The only way a song on that list can be played is if the bride or groom directly tell me it’s ok. I tell any guest that requirement and it seems to work.”
Tommy Gunnz Abrams, North Cambria, PA added: “I’m with Lee here, I ask my clients for a DO NOT PLAY LIST, therefore, I know everything else is free game for me to spin. If a guest asks for one of those songs on the DNPL, I have it printed out to show them I’ve been given direct orders from the client…there’s usually no disputes after that. But if there is a dispute, I will approach the client with the person requesting it and put it on them. Surprisingly, most clients stick to their guns and say NO. During our consultation I bring this up and explain to the client that stuff like this happens and we’re usually on the same page if it comes up during the event. Good video B!!”
Bride’s POV: This Mobile Entertainer Got It Right:
… at our wedding: #1. Adhere to my Do Not Play/Must Play (because nobody wants to make little Filipino girls angry, just ask my hubby!) … Anyway, one my favorite parts of planning our wedding was choosing music. … Wedding Party Procession: In My Life (Instrumental) by Fred Benedetti & Peter Pupping; Bride Procession: I Can’t Help Falling In Love (Instrumental) by Instrumental Love Songs; Recession: Just The Way You Are (instrumental) by Vitamin String Quartet.
Sparked by his passion for music, DJ Brian Redd took to the turntables at the young age of 13 when he was asked to DJ at a local skating rink. From that, he progressed on to weddings and mobile gigs and by age 18 he had a slate of regular club jobs. Within the Mobile Entertainer community, He has gained a following as a respected industry consultant. He is a contributing writer for Disc Jockey News and travels worldwide to educate and share industry ideas and concepts with DJs everywhere.